54. Marrying Maiden
Name and Structure
Gui originally meant marrying a maiden to her husband’s house. Later on, its meaning was extended to include return. Mei means a young maiden or a younger sister. Thus Gui Mei denotes a marryying maiden.
Sequence of the Gua
Through advancing and developing,
Surely one needs a home to return to.
Thus, after Developing Gradually,
Marrying Maiden follows.
The ideograph of the first character, gui, consists of two parts. The upper left looks like two pennants with a tassel at the top of a pole, held in the procession of a marrying maiden. The lower part is the ideograph zhi, representing “stop.” At the upper right is an image of a hand with three fingers and an arm. The lower right is a picture of a hand-held broom. Taken together, these images describe the procession of a marrying maiden. It stops at the groom’s house, where the maiden will take charge of the household, as symbolized by the holding of a broom. The ideograph of the second character of the name is Mei, consisting of two parts. The left side of the ideograph is an image of a maiden with a well-shaped bust. The ideograph on the right provides the sould of the character.
This gua is the inverse of the preceding one, Developing Gradually. Developing and returning are opposite, but they complement each other. The structure of the gua is Thunder, above, Lake, Below. In the I Ching, Thunder represents an eldest son, and Lake represents a youngest daughter. This picture brought to mind a young maiden going to the groom’s house to be his wife. King Wen’s Decision on the Gua says, “Marrying Maiden Moving forward: misfortune. Nothing is favorable.” Marriage should be one of the most auspicious events in one’s life. Why does it bring misfortune in this gua?
It is said that the marriage system originated with the Yellow Emperor, Huang-di (twenty-seventh century B.C.), who had nine wives. Eight of them were chosen by his first wife. At the same time of the Zhou dynasty this system was still practiced. When the elder sister got married, frequently, a younger sister would be assigned as the second wife. Sometimes more than one younger sister would be brought into the marriage. This gua speaks of the marriage of a younger sister as a junior wife. The role of a second wife was to be a concubine; she had no primary power in the household. The second wife had to be totally submissive tot he first wife, or else there would be a power struggle in the household. This situation was not always happy. In Chinese literature, a concubine often symbolizes an official of secondary importance or the state of being out of favor. It is one who must obey what his superior says even when it opposes his own will.
Decision
Marrying Maiden.
Moving forward: misfortune.
Nothing is favorable.
Commentary on the Decision
Marrying Maiden. If Heaven and Earth do not unite. Joy with movement, Moving forward: misfortune;
Exposes the relation between Heaven and Earth.
All beings fail to flourish.
Marrying Maiden
Representing the end and beginning of human relations.
Marrying off a young maiden.
Places are not correct.
Nothing is favorable;
Yieldings are mounted on the firms.
Commentary on the Symbol
Thunder over Lake.
An image of Marrying Maiden.
In correspondence with this;
The superior person persists in the everlasting relationship
And avoids anything that would hurt the harmony.
Yao Text
Third Six.
Marrying maiden is waiting.
Returns back as a junior wife.
Marrying maiden is waiting.
She is not in an appropriate place.
Significance
This gua takes the image of a marriage to show the human relationship between a couple. The foundation of all marriage is love. Caring, concern, and mutual understanding are the essential elements of a harmonious and happy marriage. If married life is not harmonious, how can it be happy? In ancient times, for two sisters to marry one husband was common. In such a case, the elder sister became the wife, and the younger sister naturally stayed in a secondary position. She helped the elder sister manage the household. They loved each other and supported each other. In such an atmosphere, the family life could be harmonious. While the system is out of date, the principle of cultivating and maintaining a harmonious relationship is still useful.
In ancient Chinese literature the relationship between a husband and a wife was used as an analogy to describe the relationship between a king and an official. In the preceding gua, King Wen used the image of a marrying maiden to describe the relationship between himself and the Lord of Heaven. He was assigned a mission to overthrow the tyrant and rescue the people from the tyrant’s cruel rule. In this gua King Wen employed the image of marriage to describe his relationship with the tyrant.
During King Wen’s sitting in stillness he recalled the situation when he was working in the tyrant’s court. It was exactly like that of a marrying maiden. He had no initial power in the court. Any advance would bring misfortune; nothing was favorable. The Duke of Zhou tells about King Wen’s problems with the court. King Wen maintained his gentleness and docility. He acted with humility—even his garment did not look as gorgeous an that of the attendants.
Third Six.
Marrying Maiden alternates to Great Strength (34)